*Shock!*, *Horror!*...

it's 5.50 pm. today, i've decided to write something very much UNlike the rest of my previous blog entrie on my older blog site and this one.

this entry may indeed induce some of you into a state of "*Shock!*, *Horror!*...". thus, read on at your on risk.

GUYs, please your woman. really. it'll be good for her and it'll be good for you. the best gift is a gift you give to another. (check it out, selfless me.) the following will be an extract from an article that came across my path just a few days ago...(note: this is for the guys...) ladies, you may of course read this and agree or disagree. :) *i suspect this entry may raise some eyebrows.*

guys,

think 'erotic massage'.

think of it as a 'sensual gift' rather than foreplay which, from wht i hear, most women complain that men know next to nothing about oR if they do know OF it - don't seem to practice it enough.

the following techniques (apparently - according to wht i read), work best if 'she' lies back with ther legs apart and 'you'(the guy) kneel in btwn them. put pillows under her knees and let her legs open naturally.

have massage oil and water based lubricant within reach. (they may come in useful...) but noTe, don't use oil on the genitals as it may alter the delicate balance of the vagina and cause thrush. (interesting eh? lol)

strokin' the thighs:
performed 1st, the aim of this technique is to let her vagina lubricate and open - like encouraging a flower bud to blossom...(what a metaphor eh? lol - stolen fr the article i'm readin' - i'm not thT creative.)
1. alternating btwn your palms and fingertips, brush the inside of her thights. start at the ankles, brushing over her genitals, then move to her breasts, circling around them. repeat several times!
2. stroke her pubic hair and genital area using soft , gentle motinos. use your fingers to gently stroke her outer labia, keeping a consistent rhythm. don't start stimulating the inner labia(vaginal lips) until the outer labia is open.

in other words - go slow lah.

awakening the clitoris:
aim is to massage and warm the entire genital area, *awakening* the clitoris and encouraging natural lubrication.
1. lie next to her or kneel btwn her legs - using the knuckles of your 1st 2 fingers, knead the outer labia lips, moving backwards and forwards. you're kneading, not pinching, and working downwards, massaging the whole labia with a firm but gentle pressure.
2. move down towards the anus, then start at the top again. you can use your thumb and index finger if that feels more comfortable.

the 2 finger stroke:
this technique is the easiert and simplest way to give her pleasure.
1. rest your thumb and index finger at the top of her vagina(the end where the clitoris is). rotate your fingers around the rop of the clitoris(still covered by its protective hood at this point - bet some of you fellas didn't know there was a protective hood to begin with eh? lol), then move your fingers downwards. massage and roll evenly, rubbing up and down on either side of the vagina and settling into an even rhythm.
2. gently caress the outer and inner labia with your fingertips, teasing them to open up. move the tips of your fingers in a circular motion, travelling around the inner lips before gently parting the labia.
3. once opened, the clitoris will reveal itself fr beneath the clitoral hood and become erect and prominent. she's readu for more direct clitoral stimulation when she opens her legs wider, pushes firmly against your hand or raises her pelvis off the bed.

rock around the clock:
it's useful to imagine a clock dial surrounding the vaginal area: the top being 12 o'clock and the lowest point being 6 o'clock.
1. using only the tip of your finger, slowly move around the clitoris in a circular motion, but nOT directly on it.
2. continue the circular motion down the length of her vagina, alternating with stroking and teasing withyour fingertips.
3. move back to the clitoris and circle directly over it with your fingertip. some women down't like direct clitoral stimulation, so check which area feels best when stimulated - using the clock as a guide.
4. try pulling the clitoris btwn the 2 fingers. it's not actually possible to get a grip of it, but the pulling motion feels sensational! (so the article says...)

AND finally, entering the garden:
this is a double action stroke that works on the G-spot and clitoris simultaneously to bring most women to orgasm.
1. insert 1(or 2) fingers into her well lubricated vagina, curving them around so you're working on the front wall(imagine you're aiming upwards to her stomach). hold your finger still for a few seconds - she may move against it, but don't apply pressure until she feels comfortable.
2. move into a "come here" motion, as if you're beckoning someone with your finger. the G-spot is roughly the size of a large pea and feels textured. when aroused, it fills with blood and becomes more sensitive. some women might find their 1st stimulation of the G-spot distinctly uncomfortable or they may feel like they're about to urinate(there's a direct nerve connection with the bladder). encourage her to relax into the sensation of the G-spot because the feeling will pass.
3. don't press hard constantly - a gentle, beckoning motion is usually far more 'pleasurable'. try a zig-zag motion across the clitoris or massage in and out so your fingers are passing over the G-spot without concentrating on it too directly.
4. with your other hand, "rock around the clock" circling the clitoris with your finger or thumb as she's about to orgasm.
5. some women like a flat-surfaced vibrator on their clitoris during G-spot stimulation.

AND that's it.

but above all, remember there's no right or wrong way to perform these techniques. it's not a cooking lesson; you don't need the above printed out in front of you to refer to! i think that might be quite a 'turn-off'. lol.

i believe the act of sex is not something that should be taboo. i believe it to be a wonderful, beautiful and magnificent experience and i don't mean that in a perverted way.

there's so much to say on this subject isn't there? but there's nothing that comes to mind right now that may be something any of us hasn't already heard 10 million times.

so there...

signing off, the common jack amongst the kings and queens.